Writers To Be Inspired By: Meet Jessica

Tell us a little about yourself.

Hello there! 

My name is Jessica I am 22 and though originally from England I am currently living in New Zealand! I am a blogger and spend my days trying to teach and encourage others to recover from abuse and various mental health difficulties. 

My blogs purpose is to actually try and help stop the cycle of abuse. 
I believe my abuse happened due to my abuser suffering at the hands of abuse themselves and only repeating the behavior. I try to encourage others into recovery and to heal and show that with time,patience and willpower it can be done. 

On my blog I share my views on my abuse, my abusers abuse and detail parts of my recovery including my mental health difficulties.  

How did you get started in your industry?

Well truly, i just had the idea to do it one night!

My first original blog over on blogspot which was created in 2012 was the first time i had outed my abuse to anyone at all. Even my closest friends didn’t know about what I had been through. My passion for helping others and wanting to make a change was what pushed me to do it. I just sort of.. did it! 

When you started your career, were you surrounded by a support unit? If not, how did you stay motivated through the rough patches?

As stating previously I started my blog alone with nobody at all knowing about it.  It was tough but I was determined to follow my heart. 

My blog came with mixed feelings and a lot of heartache as i had kept such a huge secret for so long. After all the heartache and explanations everyone was supportive. I guess it was just getting over than initial shock. Whoops! 

Why do you feel what you do is important? 

I really think its important to see a different sideor 'result ' of abuse. I remember when i was first learning about my abuse and would read articles or books filled with hatred. They would be talking about their abusers and how they had ruined their lives and almost that they had no way out. It was almost like saying abuse results in sadness, hopelessness,fear and that's just the way it is. 
 

The anger from abuse is a natural process and something I believe needs to happen but i never saw anyone move passed that and that's what i really wanted to show with my blog. You can actually move passed that stage. 

How did being a voice for other young women impact your life?

I am incredibly grateful for the opportunity to do what I do especially when I am only in the very early stages.
My blog fills my days with nothing but love as I receive such nice letters and words of support. 

I would say my blog has had a hugely positive impact on my life. 

Was it hard for you to be vulnerable and share your story, in the beginning? 

Oh very. I had spent so long trying to keep the secret and hide my abuse. Life was a constant effort to keep it hidden and to not let anyone know what was happening.  To then share it was huge. Especially when I wasn’t just sharing it to those closest I was doing it for everyone to see!

Was there ever a time you wanted to give up on your passion? What made you keep going?

I can’t say there was! I did have a short break after my abuser passed away as I had to travel back to England but I was so keen to get back to it on my return. I can’t imagine ever not wanting to do this!

What are your views on the importance of networking and building relationships in your field? 

Networking and building relationships in my field have been a huge part of my blog. I have met some incredible people and learnt so much in such a short time. I also believe it is important as were trying to spread such positive messages it only gets the word out further!

What’s the best advice you can give other women who are aspiring to do what you do? 

Just do it. I can’t stress it more.  I know a lot of brilliant writers with huge passions who are always put off by the initial stages of starting a blog. 

Where do they start, is the subject good enough, will it be successful. I always tell them to have a rough plan and to just go with their heart. I think blogging is a very personal thing with so many personal rewards even if it doesn't get to that 'sucessful' stage that some aim for.

What’s next for you? Where do you see your brand and company(ies) in the next few years? 

I can’t put into words how excited I am for the next few years. Especially this year. I am currently making some huge life changes and also am in the process of setting up a studio so i can do more. I have so much planned and can’t wait to get started!

Where can we find your work, so we can support your movement?

You can find my blog at littlestlady.com on instagram@littlestladyofficial or twitter @LittlestLady_