They Don’t Get It… Do It Anyways

I think by now many of us have had to go through the frustration of trying to make the people we love understand our dreams and passions. They don’t see the vision and it’s like pulling teeth to get them to support you.

Some people are blessed with people who will support them regardless of if they completely understand the direction but others… not so much.

I’m sure most of these people mean well, but the truth is, if they aren’t dreamers themselves, it makes no sense trying to convince them your dreams are valid. It also doesn’t make sense to become overly angry with them either.

Everything just isn’t for everybody and not everyone is going to see life the way you do. You’re probably surrounded by a lot of people who like to stick to what they know and are afraid of the risk involved with going against the grain.

As frustrating as they can be, they simply just don’t want to see you put in all that time and effort only to end up failing. They feel by discouraging you, they can save you from maybe ending up disappointed and subsequently wasting your time, when you could have done something else that would guarantee you more success than your crazy ideas.

Now I’m not encouraging anyone to become a starving artist, but I do strongly encourage anyone who has dreams that put fire in their heart or keep them up at night, to pursue them, regardless of what other people think or say.

You can chase your dreams and have a 9 to 5 in the meantime. You can chase your dreams and have a few diplomas or degrees to fall back on. A safety net is not a bad thing, but it should never deter you from chasing after what you really want.

The people in your life don’t have to understand the vision right now simply because it isn’t their vision. It wasn’t given to them, it was given to you. It’s your talent; it’s your passion therefore only you have the drive and resources to bring it to life.

So do what it takes. Endure through the process, learn from the failed attempts, find people to learn from and above all be your own cheerleader.

If you know you’ve got a lot of skeptical people in your camp, learn to work in silence. Sometimes people will learn to respect your hustle and your dreams when they see it manifested. Some people simply do not know how to accept what it is they cannot already see.

I’ve had to learn as a writer to keep a lot of my projects to myself for my own peace of mind. It can be really discouraging when you have an idea you think is amazing and you share it only to receive half-hearted feedback.

When I decided to write my first novel, I didn’t tell anybody about it until it was pretty much already written and edited a few times.

It wasn’t because I was ashamed of it or afraid, I just didn’t want anyone to deter me from getting it done. I’ve been writing for as long as a can remember and have stacks of writing that I’ve done absolutely nothing with, simply because I was waiting for other people to push me.

Yeah, I had a few teachers and classmates tell me I should take writing seriously, but I find sometimes we don’t follow advice from people we aren’t particularly close with. When it’s not family and close friends pushing us forward, we tend to dismiss other forms of encouragement.

It took me a long time to realize that I didn’t need my family or friends to encourage me to do something I’ve always done, something I’ve always loved. What I needed to do was find the courage to believe in myself and encourage myself.

There are many moments in life where you have to live for other people, but I believe that when it comes to your destiny, that has to be a very selfish thing.

You’ve got to have tunnel vision about the person you want to be and about chasing your dreams. You will find that even though you start with little support, the more you power through and show you are serious, the support will come from places you least expected it.

It’s scary to step out on a limb and even scarier to step out all alone,  but you will never regret following your heart, what you will regret is all those years later living with shoulda, coulda, woulda, if you don’t. 

Try your hardest not to be mad or discouraged if the people closest to you don’t understand your direction right now. Instead, let it be motivation for you to become the person that shows them that the impossible, is indeed possible.

Anyone can achieve incredible things when they have an army behind them, but there is something remarkable and admirable about someone who can build something amazing, with only the faith they had in themselves.

Be that person, inspire other people and depend solely on your own heart and intuition; if you have enough courage you can propel yourself to places you’ve never dreamed possible and I can guarantee you’ll be glad you did.

I’m not going to deceive you and tell you the journey is going to be easy, but I can tell you it will be worth it.